Love is not a simple thing to define particularly in English which uses the one word to describe many types of love. Love of cake, love of mother, love of friends, love of lover. Love may be good or bad as we have healthy and unhealthy relationships.
The question “what is love?” is most often asked about healthy romantic love. We want to know what it looks like and feels like. That love which lasts a lifetime.
We want this love to be forever but often see this desire dashed in the relationships around us. How can we hope to do better where better people than us have lost. It is easy to lose hope in abiding love.
I have found much hope in two people. Jordan Petersen and Gary Chapman . Mr Petersen tells us of the strength and depth of relationship that comes from surviving hard times together. That it is so worth fighting through things together as your relationship will become so much more than it could be without these battles. In his literature on the five love languages Mr Chapman shows us that with a little effort one can keep the flame of love alive and growing. And he provides a guide for what you can do, concrete realistic and proven solutions
Love is more than a feeling. It is a decision, a commitment, a choice. The choice to put the needs of another above our wants. We may lust after a person for a time, but lust is not lasting. We may have a fascination with a person that passes with better knowledge, but love, if we will, can last longer than life, growing stronger and deeper and more beautiful, with each step we take to grow, fortify and deepen it.
Katherine Wansink Writes 